I just got tired of reading the small words and complicated background so I decided to change it to a simplier one.
I think this should encourage me to update the blog more and probably ( probably... post more photos)
I think I should just rely and post less on Facebook...
tune in!
5.04.2010
The truth about guys
Today my guy friend shared with me a little on what guys think about.
He said that guys like to think they are the best in the world. If he is a father, he would like to think that he is the best daddy, if he is a husband, he will to think that he is the most loving husband.. and it goes on.
Being the best father also means you are the most handsome guy in your kids' and wife's heart. Men like to think that they are ultraman and while they might forget "little things" like anniversaries or to put down the toilet seat after they are done, they will definitely be around to rescue their damsels in distress.
If you start to praise other guys in front of them ( only as a matter of fact) they will think begin to compare themselves unnecessarily to that guy.
His final word on this topic. Don't say Batmans are better in front of Ultramans.
He said that guys like to think they are the best in the world. If he is a father, he would like to think that he is the best daddy, if he is a husband, he will to think that he is the most loving husband.. and it goes on.
Being the best father also means you are the most handsome guy in your kids' and wife's heart. Men like to think that they are ultraman and while they might forget "little things" like anniversaries or to put down the toilet seat after they are done, they will definitely be around to rescue their damsels in distress.
If you start to praise other guys in front of them ( only as a matter of fact) they will think begin to compare themselves unnecessarily to that guy.
His final word on this topic. Don't say Batmans are better in front of Ultramans.
5.02.2010
Happy Golden week!!
Happy Golden week to those who are working in Japan or following the Japanese calendar... It is finally the long-awaited long weekend ( which consists of a 4-day holiday！）although there is a working day stuck in between the first and second holiday, we still got a 5 straight day break anyway!
This year I am just going to be good and stay in Tokyo. ( oh yes... I was travelling for the past holidays)
So... april came and went past. Which means.... we are almost at the end of the first half of the year. I once saw this on the TV. It says that as we age, we also begin to feel time passes faster. So... I am just so going to stop saying that time flies but to enjoy every moment.
So what did I do since the last update?
My friends came.... and I had a roaring 2 weeks going out with them and partying...
I went for a V6 concert last week...
And...
I got an iphone! The best part of it is... it is my company phone so I am using it for free with my bills paid. I spent so much time the first few days looking at the applications!
And all thanks to C and H, I am using Whatsapp now!! For those who dunno, it is an application that allows you to chat for free with anyone who is using iphone anywhere in the world!
Yes!! free sms and mms and it is in a form of chat!!
So... I am chatting with C especially even till the wee hours into the night, sending pictures of our food, or anything that catches our attention....
Never felt so happy to be in touch with people....
Of course, not forgetting M, the person top on my list whom I chat with the most! We literally chat on anything that is available to chat, gmail, sms, msn....
The GW is really a much needed break. Apart from work, it also gives us a breather and time to put away the winter clothes and to air our summer clothes. Today, marks the day I finally put away my electric blanket!! I am wary of the weather changes tho... so it is still within my reach.
Other than that, I throw away a while bag of rubbish today!
Spent my night at S's place last night. Had a good time eating the feast he and his wife prepared, lazing around, watching Tv with them... Really thank God for this nice couple whom I always hang out with.
And.... there is a BBQ party at the park tomorrow for the church! They couldn't choose a better day with a better weather. 20Deg at the peak so I am so looking forward to bathe in the sun rays while feasting on the meat!!
** those using iphone, let me know!!
This year I am just going to be good and stay in Tokyo. ( oh yes... I was travelling for the past holidays)
So... april came and went past. Which means.... we are almost at the end of the first half of the year. I once saw this on the TV. It says that as we age, we also begin to feel time passes faster. So... I am just so going to stop saying that time flies but to enjoy every moment.
So what did I do since the last update?
My friends came.... and I had a roaring 2 weeks going out with them and partying...
I went for a V6 concert last week...
And...
I got an iphone! The best part of it is... it is my company phone so I am using it for free with my bills paid. I spent so much time the first few days looking at the applications!
And all thanks to C and H, I am using Whatsapp now!! For those who dunno, it is an application that allows you to chat for free with anyone who is using iphone anywhere in the world!
Yes!! free sms and mms and it is in a form of chat!!
So... I am chatting with C especially even till the wee hours into the night, sending pictures of our food, or anything that catches our attention....
Never felt so happy to be in touch with people....
Of course, not forgetting M, the person top on my list whom I chat with the most! We literally chat on anything that is available to chat, gmail, sms, msn....
The GW is really a much needed break. Apart from work, it also gives us a breather and time to put away the winter clothes and to air our summer clothes. Today, marks the day I finally put away my electric blanket!! I am wary of the weather changes tho... so it is still within my reach.
Other than that, I throw away a while bag of rubbish today!
Spent my night at S's place last night. Had a good time eating the feast he and his wife prepared, lazing around, watching Tv with them... Really thank God for this nice couple whom I always hang out with.
And.... there is a BBQ party at the park tomorrow for the church! They couldn't choose a better day with a better weather. 20Deg at the peak so I am so looking forward to bathe in the sun rays while feasting on the meat!!
** those using iphone, let me know!!
4.06.2010
Partying hard^^
I have been staying out late everyday since last thursday....
I guess this is really the season for visiting.
I had friends who were over in Tokyo since last week.
More friends from Japanese last time who came to visit.
On saturday we went for Hanami ( sakura viewing, picnic, drinking parties) at the Yoyogi Park and it was just awesome. You would have thought we were at some international summit..
Our friends include people from Singapore (me), Malaysia, Taiwanese, Hk, Czech Republic, US, Spain, France, China, Russia ( and not forgetting Japan obviously). It really amazes me how we, people from a myraid of backgrounds, growing up in different cultures, speaking in so many different languages can come under a common umbrella call Fun and Laughter.
For that record, we do get confused too. My HK friend who speaks to me in Chinese or English, breaks outs in fast Cantonese at times, Another American friend who usually speaks to me in Japanese started sprouted instructions in English...
But all in all, I am also glad for the opportunites to know these people and thankful for modern day technologies like Facebook...
but.... I can't help but feel tired....
My skin's suffering from the lack of sleep.
My body's in a drudgery state.
When I woke up this morning, I couldn't even walk in a straight-line...
You just can't stop time from moving forward.
If that is case, move faster till the weekend puleazzeeee...
I guess this is really the season for visiting.
I had friends who were over in Tokyo since last week.
More friends from Japanese last time who came to visit.
On saturday we went for Hanami ( sakura viewing, picnic, drinking parties) at the Yoyogi Park and it was just awesome. You would have thought we were at some international summit..
Our friends include people from Singapore (me), Malaysia, Taiwanese, Hk, Czech Republic, US, Spain, France, China, Russia ( and not forgetting Japan obviously). It really amazes me how we, people from a myraid of backgrounds, growing up in different cultures, speaking in so many different languages can come under a common umbrella call Fun and Laughter.
For that record, we do get confused too. My HK friend who speaks to me in Chinese or English, breaks outs in fast Cantonese at times, Another American friend who usually speaks to me in Japanese started sprouted instructions in English...
But all in all, I am also glad for the opportunites to know these people and thankful for modern day technologies like Facebook...
but.... I can't help but feel tired....
My skin's suffering from the lack of sleep.
My body's in a drudgery state.
When I woke up this morning, I couldn't even walk in a straight-line...
You just can't stop time from moving forward.
If that is case, move faster till the weekend puleazzeeee...
3.29.2010
I'm back
From my seoul trip^^
Can't believe how much I enjoyed myself just in the short 5 days. ( make it 3 full days minusing off the plane rides)
While I can't much digest the idea of making a living there ( besides not speaking the language), I have been bumped head-on countless times in the streets by impatient koreans in a hurry. They don't apologise for that matter.
But despite the supposedly rude appearance, we were so touched by people who stopped to give us directions voluntarily ( that at one point, they just feel too strange to be kind), we had helpful taxi-drivers who called up other people for help in directions when we were lost... All in all, I was certainly impressed by the warmth of the Koreans.
And of course in Korea, I could do 2 things among others that I enjoyed most.
1. Eating cheap korean food ( I lurrvveeee korean food!)
2. shop and survey cheap skin care.
Oh yes.... I do like shopping for that matter. But shoes and clothes are often the bottom of my list because of the not-readily-available shops for my bigger than average body (er hem..) and the hassle of trying them on. Epecially in winter. Period.
Bags.. well... I won't say I don't like them but usually that 1 item ends the trip. I mean you can't possibly be shopping and buying like 10 bags a day can you?! Window shopping is no kick to me. If I set out to shop, I better be back home with my arms full of bags of things I really like.
But skin care is different! There are so many things to check out! You could start from the cleanser ( for different skin types), the lotion, moisturier, essence ( for different effects, brightening, tightening of pores, anti-ageing...) then you have the make-up base, fountation and the lip gloss is like another shop altogether!
But basically, skin care regime is something I will never get lazy in ( oh yah, I confess I don't bother to iron clothes at times) But I believe a good skin is the only way to save time for make-up and possibly saves you more money on anti-ageing products in the future too!
Last but not least, had the priviledge to travel with a great bunch of ladies^^ it is always not easy to travel in a group and especially when there were first-time meetings among us... but it was also amazing that we kinda hit if off easily and was so agreeable on where to go.
I am already looking foward to my next Seoul trip.. probably in a few months' time~~
Can't believe how much I enjoyed myself just in the short 5 days. ( make it 3 full days minusing off the plane rides)
While I can't much digest the idea of making a living there ( besides not speaking the language), I have been bumped head-on countless times in the streets by impatient koreans in a hurry. They don't apologise for that matter.
But despite the supposedly rude appearance, we were so touched by people who stopped to give us directions voluntarily ( that at one point, they just feel too strange to be kind), we had helpful taxi-drivers who called up other people for help in directions when we were lost... All in all, I was certainly impressed by the warmth of the Koreans.
And of course in Korea, I could do 2 things among others that I enjoyed most.
1. Eating cheap korean food ( I lurrvveeee korean food!)
2. shop and survey cheap skin care.
Oh yes.... I do like shopping for that matter. But shoes and clothes are often the bottom of my list because of the not-readily-available shops for my bigger than average body (er hem..) and the hassle of trying them on. Epecially in winter. Period.
Bags.. well... I won't say I don't like them but usually that 1 item ends the trip. I mean you can't possibly be shopping and buying like 10 bags a day can you?! Window shopping is no kick to me. If I set out to shop, I better be back home with my arms full of bags of things I really like.
But skin care is different! There are so many things to check out! You could start from the cleanser ( for different skin types), the lotion, moisturier, essence ( for different effects, brightening, tightening of pores, anti-ageing...) then you have the make-up base, fountation and the lip gloss is like another shop altogether!
But basically, skin care regime is something I will never get lazy in ( oh yah, I confess I don't bother to iron clothes at times) But I believe a good skin is the only way to save time for make-up and possibly saves you more money on anti-ageing products in the future too!
Last but not least, had the priviledge to travel with a great bunch of ladies^^ it is always not easy to travel in a group and especially when there were first-time meetings among us... but it was also amazing that we kinda hit if off easily and was so agreeable on where to go.
I am already looking foward to my next Seoul trip.. probably in a few months' time~~
3.20.2010
I found it!
I always have friends who tell me how excited they feel each time they are at the airport (ready to travel out) and how fun plane rides are.
I never understood that feeling.... because plane rides to me are boring, uncomfortable, drying, backaches etc....
I mean I love travelling to a new country or even home but the fun for me starts only after arrival.
Till today!
I am actually feeling perked up and excited about my flight 4 hours later.
Then I understood why!
I have been taking morning flights all these while and was too simply too sleepy and grouchy in the morning to feel any excitment!
Afternoon flights are best!
I never understood that feeling.... because plane rides to me are boring, uncomfortable, drying, backaches etc....
I mean I love travelling to a new country or even home but the fun for me starts only after arrival.
Till today!
I am actually feeling perked up and excited about my flight 4 hours later.
Then I understood why!
I have been taking morning flights all these while and was too simply too sleepy and grouchy in the morning to feel any excitment!
Afternoon flights are best!
3.19.2010
I am heading for Seoul tomorrow evening!
I have been waiting for this day to come eagerly because I have always wanted to go to Seoul! People caution me that I will get sick of Kimchi and garlic but I don't care because they are on the list of my favourite food!
For the records, I can have kimchi soup everyday, 5 days a week! I love korean fried dumplings, pancakes, tofu soup, bbq meat etc.... this is really the first time I am so excited about going to a new country because of the food. I just wish Japan could offer more affordable korean food here...
Not to mention I am also excited about the spa we should be going to. It is an all-in-one thingie.. You get them to massage you, scrub your back, get yourself warmed in the sauna or hotspring, and cucumber facial apparently!
Lastly not to forget, there will be a mass gathering of people from various countires and different timing! A friend flying in from China, another from HK, 3 of us from Japan but on 2 separate days^^
It is amazing how things work.
My only regret: That carol can't join us!
p/s carol: shin said she is interested to go to seoul someday too! Let's go again ne!
I have been waiting for this day to come eagerly because I have always wanted to go to Seoul! People caution me that I will get sick of Kimchi and garlic but I don't care because they are on the list of my favourite food!
For the records, I can have kimchi soup everyday, 5 days a week! I love korean fried dumplings, pancakes, tofu soup, bbq meat etc.... this is really the first time I am so excited about going to a new country because of the food. I just wish Japan could offer more affordable korean food here...
Not to mention I am also excited about the spa we should be going to. It is an all-in-one thingie.. You get them to massage you, scrub your back, get yourself warmed in the sauna or hotspring, and cucumber facial apparently!
Lastly not to forget, there will be a mass gathering of people from various countires and different timing! A friend flying in from China, another from HK, 3 of us from Japan but on 2 separate days^^
It is amazing how things work.
My only regret: That carol can't join us!
p/s carol: shin said she is interested to go to seoul someday too! Let's go again ne!
3.08.2010
Quite tickled!
Quite tickled by my cousin who fwd the below to me. enjoy!
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The Silent Treatment
A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each other the silent treatment. Suddenly, the man realized that the next day, he would need his wife to wake him at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight. Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE), he wrote on a piece of paper, "Please wake me at5:00 AM " He left it where he knew she would find it.The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AM and he had missed his flight.
Furious, he was about to go and see why his wife hadn't wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper by the bed. The paper said, "It is 5:00 AM. Wake up." Men are not equipped for these kinds of contests.
WIFE VS. HUSBAND
A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a word.An earlier discussion had led to an argument andneither of them wanted to concede their position.As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs,the husband asked sarcastically, "Relatives of yours?"
"Yep," the wife replied , "in-laws
WOMEN'S REVENGE
"Cash, check or charge?" I asked, after folding items the woman wished to purchase.As she fumbled for her wallet I noticed a remote control for a television set in her purse."So, do you always carry your TV remote?" I asked.
"No," she replied, " but my husband refused to come shopping with me,and I figured this was the most evil thing I could do to him legally.
"UNDERSTANDING WOMEN(A MAN'S PERSPECTIVE)
I know I'm not going to understand women. I'll never understand how you can take boiling hot wax,pour it onto your upper thigh, rip the hair out by the root,and still be afraid of a spider.
W O R D S
A husband read an article to his wife about how many words women use a day...30,000 to a man's 15,000.The wife replied, "The reason has to be because we have to repeat everything to men..
.The husband then turned to his wife and asked, "What?"
CREATION
A man said to his wife one day, "I don't know how you can beso stupid and so beautiful all at the same time."
The wife responded, "Allow me to explain.God made me beautiful so you would be attracted to me; God made me stupid so I would be attracted to you!
WHO DOES WHAT
A man and his wife were having an argument about who should brew the coffee each morning. The wife said, "You should do it, because you get up first,and then we don't have to wait as long to get our coffee."The husband said, " You are in charge of cooking around here andyou should do it, because that is your job, and I can just wait for my coffee.
"Wife replies, "No, you should do it, and besides, it is in the Biblet hat the man should do the coffee.
"Husband replies, "I can't believe that, show me."So she fetched the Bible, and opened the New Testamentand showed him at the top of several pages, that it indeed says........ .."HEBREWS"
God may have created man before woman,but there is always a rough draft before the masterpiece.
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The Silent Treatment
A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each other the silent treatment. Suddenly, the man realized that the next day, he would need his wife to wake him at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight. Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE), he wrote on a piece of paper, "Please wake me at5:00 AM " He left it where he knew she would find it.The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AM and he had missed his flight.
Furious, he was about to go and see why his wife hadn't wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper by the bed. The paper said, "It is 5:00 AM. Wake up." Men are not equipped for these kinds of contests.
WIFE VS. HUSBAND
A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a word.An earlier discussion had led to an argument andneither of them wanted to concede their position.As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs,the husband asked sarcastically, "Relatives of yours?"
"Yep," the wife replied , "in-laws
WOMEN'S REVENGE
"Cash, check or charge?" I asked, after folding items the woman wished to purchase.As she fumbled for her wallet I noticed a remote control for a television set in her purse."So, do you always carry your TV remote?" I asked.
"No," she replied, " but my husband refused to come shopping with me,and I figured this was the most evil thing I could do to him legally.
"UNDERSTANDING WOMEN(A MAN'S PERSPECTIVE)
I know I'm not going to understand women. I'll never understand how you can take boiling hot wax,pour it onto your upper thigh, rip the hair out by the root,and still be afraid of a spider.
W O R D S
A husband read an article to his wife about how many words women use a day...30,000 to a man's 15,000.The wife replied, "The reason has to be because we have to repeat everything to men..
.The husband then turned to his wife and asked, "What?"
CREATION
A man said to his wife one day, "I don't know how you can beso stupid and so beautiful all at the same time."
The wife responded, "Allow me to explain.God made me beautiful so you would be attracted to me; God made me stupid so I would be attracted to you!
WHO DOES WHAT
A man and his wife were having an argument about who should brew the coffee each morning. The wife said, "You should do it, because you get up first,and then we don't have to wait as long to get our coffee."The husband said, " You are in charge of cooking around here andyou should do it, because that is your job, and I can just wait for my coffee.
"Wife replies, "No, you should do it, and besides, it is in the Biblet hat the man should do the coffee.
"Husband replies, "I can't believe that, show me."So she fetched the Bible, and opened the New Testamentand showed him at the top of several pages, that it indeed says........ .."HEBREWS"
God may have created man before woman,but there is always a rough draft before the masterpiece.
3.07.2010
3.03.2010
The story goes on...
So now will be part 2 of my blog post on that USA counterpart.
Yes, the one who didn't turn up for the meeting.
I emailed her to confirm our re-schedule meeting and at the very last line, I sort of asked her why she didn't turn up.
As a true blue irritating white ( so I say irritating because there are non-irritating ones around) she said that while she got the timing wrong, she was connected to the PC for 15 mins waiting for us to come online and hence wasting that previous time with her family because it was a sunday. She added on that, the time for our next time meeting is actually out of her work hours and she is only doing it for US because she has lessons before that and she could be back at home just in time to do it.
Before I shot my mouth off again. I do and I really DO appreciate it when people does things out of their convenience for the sake of others. But hey, have some professionalism will you?! This is YOUR job! If you are going to do it, then do it joyfully and not complain and then write a whole load of family-related personal issues to a complete stranger. I really don't understand why they will mingle family issues into work-related emails.
If you think that is a waste of your previous time with your family, then don't agree to do it! It is your right to reject it in the first place. Then of course that will depend on how your company deals with such issues in the future.
In any case... I don't understand why my team, as a complete non-related party to this issue has to step in the middle of their office politics and let ourselves be the vessel for venting their anger.
Yes, the one who didn't turn up for the meeting.
I emailed her to confirm our re-schedule meeting and at the very last line, I sort of asked her why she didn't turn up.
As a true blue irritating white ( so I say irritating because there are non-irritating ones around) she said that while she got the timing wrong, she was connected to the PC for 15 mins waiting for us to come online and hence wasting that previous time with her family because it was a sunday. She added on that, the time for our next time meeting is actually out of her work hours and she is only doing it for US because she has lessons before that and she could be back at home just in time to do it.
Before I shot my mouth off again. I do and I really DO appreciate it when people does things out of their convenience for the sake of others. But hey, have some professionalism will you?! This is YOUR job! If you are going to do it, then do it joyfully and not complain and then write a whole load of family-related personal issues to a complete stranger. I really don't understand why they will mingle family issues into work-related emails.
If you think that is a waste of your previous time with your family, then don't agree to do it! It is your right to reject it in the first place. Then of course that will depend on how your company deals with such issues in the future.
In any case... I don't understand why my team, as a complete non-related party to this issue has to step in the middle of their office politics and let ourselves be the vessel for venting their anger.
And.... just as I was typing this ( half way during break in the office), another example of us being stuck in the middle as a innocent third party while the co. above involves themselves in more internal broil...
back to more headaches.
3.02.2010
Working in a Japanese company….
Or japan is really all about apologizing profusely…
I think I blogged about it sometime ago but it is still something that I cannot accept nor grow used to after working in Japan for 3 years.
(Oh yah it has been 3 years!! 3/1 marks the 3rd anniversary of working in Japan and in my current company!!)
I really hate it. (Hate to use the word hate) when something happens and my colleague tell me, “In any case, let’s apologized first”
I do not hate to apologize. I only detest it when 1. It is NOT my fault nor has ANYTHING to do with me. (I do apologize on behalf of my colleagues) 2. Saying sorry does not SOLVE the problem at all and is only providing the most convenient escape route out. (Some Japanese thinks that once they apologize, they can close the case and not think about remedies or prevention for future possible case.)
Actual case 1.
I wrote an email on behalf of a user to the IT team of HER co in US to request for them to do some setup on her PC. After all the arrangements have been done, the IT personnel just conveniently forgot about the meeting and the user waited in vain for her for 2 hours. But well, since the job is to be done via remote-desktop, it wasn’t really like she wasted her 2 hours anyway. But guess what, she came back to me and blamed me for the 2 hrs wasted.
Hey! I was like “huh??” I wasn’t the one who didn’t turn up. It was someone from YOUR own colleague! Why do I have to apologize on behalf of YOUR own colleague! And the best is that IT personnel didn’t even apologize to me nor explain why she didn’t turn up! She once again, conveniently asked for another meeting. Does my apology solve the current problem of her skipping the meeting? NO!! Will it prevent her from forgetting the meeting again?? Answer is NO!! again!
So I wrote an email again to politely tell her, that while I deeply regretted what happened, I am in no position to guarantee such things will not happen again if her colleague does not cooperate, adding on that we will think of remedies to prevent such things from happening again.
Guess what?
No reply from her.
Ungrateful brat.
OK.. sorry I sounded so bitter. But I think Japanese should just get out of their shell, stop thinking that the world revolves around them. (Hey they do think that they are in the centre of the world)
Stop categorizing people (white are not necessary the best) and start to treat humans as real humans.
And I really don’t see why my life should all be just about apologizing profusely for NOTHING. We need to jiang li.
I think I blogged about it sometime ago but it is still something that I cannot accept nor grow used to after working in Japan for 3 years.
(Oh yah it has been 3 years!! 3/1 marks the 3rd anniversary of working in Japan and in my current company!!)
I really hate it. (Hate to use the word hate) when something happens and my colleague tell me, “In any case, let’s apologized first”
I do not hate to apologize. I only detest it when 1. It is NOT my fault nor has ANYTHING to do with me. (I do apologize on behalf of my colleagues) 2. Saying sorry does not SOLVE the problem at all and is only providing the most convenient escape route out. (Some Japanese thinks that once they apologize, they can close the case and not think about remedies or prevention for future possible case.)
Actual case 1.
I wrote an email on behalf of a user to the IT team of HER co in US to request for them to do some setup on her PC. After all the arrangements have been done, the IT personnel just conveniently forgot about the meeting and the user waited in vain for her for 2 hours. But well, since the job is to be done via remote-desktop, it wasn’t really like she wasted her 2 hours anyway. But guess what, she came back to me and blamed me for the 2 hrs wasted.
Hey! I was like “huh??” I wasn’t the one who didn’t turn up. It was someone from YOUR own colleague! Why do I have to apologize on behalf of YOUR own colleague! And the best is that IT personnel didn’t even apologize to me nor explain why she didn’t turn up! She once again, conveniently asked for another meeting. Does my apology solve the current problem of her skipping the meeting? NO!! Will it prevent her from forgetting the meeting again?? Answer is NO!! again!
So I wrote an email again to politely tell her, that while I deeply regretted what happened, I am in no position to guarantee such things will not happen again if her colleague does not cooperate, adding on that we will think of remedies to prevent such things from happening again.
Guess what?
No reply from her.
Ungrateful brat.
OK.. sorry I sounded so bitter. But I think Japanese should just get out of their shell, stop thinking that the world revolves around them. (Hey they do think that they are in the centre of the world)
Stop categorizing people (white are not necessary the best) and start to treat humans as real humans.
And I really don’t see why my life should all be just about apologizing profusely for NOTHING. We need to jiang li.
3.01.2010
The hype over
Finally... all the hyper is over for winter olympics... I was literally glued to the TV in the past week especially on news of Asada Mao, one of the 3 ladies competing in the ladies Figure Skating component.
You can go google on her.. She was Japan's best bet for a gold medal but lost out to her long-time rival, Kim Yuna of Korea.
Well... though my heart ached really big time for Mao because she had waited a long 4 years for this. 4 yrs ago, though she won the world championship she couldn't qualify for olympics because she was underage ( at 15).
When interviewed about her emotions regarding getting a silver, she tried to give comments that she is happy blah blah blah... but she couldn't contain her tears and she started crying.
This is the first time since I started watching Mao 4 years along unable to control her emotions.
She is usually humble and positive, looking on how to improve herself for the next competition.
But.. what really impresses me.. or makes me a little shameful is when I see how these girls at 19 has such a clear goal in their minds, ( the Korean girl's 19 as well) and how they overcome each difficulty in their performances with unceasing practise.
There was the Tokyo marathon 2010 yesterday and a comment a runner made stayed in my heart.
He said " As long we we do not give up and don't stop running, we are slowly but defintely moving forward."
Indeed... must apply this to my life too.
You can go google on her.. She was Japan's best bet for a gold medal but lost out to her long-time rival, Kim Yuna of Korea.
Well... though my heart ached really big time for Mao because she had waited a long 4 years for this. 4 yrs ago, though she won the world championship she couldn't qualify for olympics because she was underage ( at 15).
When interviewed about her emotions regarding getting a silver, she tried to give comments that she is happy blah blah blah... but she couldn't contain her tears and she started crying.
This is the first time since I started watching Mao 4 years along unable to control her emotions.
She is usually humble and positive, looking on how to improve herself for the next competition.
But.. what really impresses me.. or makes me a little shameful is when I see how these girls at 19 has such a clear goal in their minds, ( the Korean girl's 19 as well) and how they overcome each difficulty in their performances with unceasing practise.
There was the Tokyo marathon 2010 yesterday and a comment a runner made stayed in my heart.
He said " As long we we do not give up and don't stop running, we are slowly but defintely moving forward."
Indeed... must apply this to my life too.
2.25.2010
The appeal.
I sent a mail out to most of the people I keep in contact with through emails a few days ago regarding an appeal to help a boy.
Interestingly, I had a few friends who came back to me asking if it was really me or was it a Spam, or asking me to check if my account was hacked.
I am glad for such reminders though especially when hacking and spam are like as common as cucumbers with chicken rice. When I was drafting the email, I tried to think of how I should piece my words so that it will sound like me and not just like any other spam.
But it is not exactly working because people hardly read till the end, they will probably read the first few lines and either chuck the mail away or probably it was filtered into their spam mail right from the start.
This gets me really annoyed though. Not with my friends but with people who sends spam. YOU are the ones who made the emails such an annoying experience for people, especially those who do not check their mails frequently.
I don’t want to elaborate more on that but just for those who are reading this right now. That email was from ME. I wrote it and sent it out because I felt that was something I could do. I am not sure if misfortune will befall on me if I do not forward chain mails sent to me but I am sure with every forward button push for that letter, that is one more candle lit up for the boy’s future. It may not be in dollar and cents like I said. It could be a prayer, could be your awareness, and could even be your efforts to let someone else know.
For those who didn’t receive my email, I am calling out on behalf of a friend (who resides in Dhaka now) to raise funds for a boy of 8 years old. He was born deaf and through my friend’s efforts he was able to come to Singapore to receive treatment which will restore his hearing.
NUH has kindly agreed to do the operation at half the cost. But yes, he still has to cough up with that money of about 50K, which is virtually impossible to a single-income family in Bangladesh.
If you would like to make a difference in just this one life, please get back to me (either email or the comments beside) and I will get back to you with the details.
I think the deadline will be Mar 1st so that the money will be handed over to NUH and the family in time.
THANKS A LOT!!!
Interestingly, I had a few friends who came back to me asking if it was really me or was it a Spam, or asking me to check if my account was hacked.
I am glad for such reminders though especially when hacking and spam are like as common as cucumbers with chicken rice. When I was drafting the email, I tried to think of how I should piece my words so that it will sound like me and not just like any other spam.
But it is not exactly working because people hardly read till the end, they will probably read the first few lines and either chuck the mail away or probably it was filtered into their spam mail right from the start.
This gets me really annoyed though. Not with my friends but with people who sends spam. YOU are the ones who made the emails such an annoying experience for people, especially those who do not check their mails frequently.
I don’t want to elaborate more on that but just for those who are reading this right now. That email was from ME. I wrote it and sent it out because I felt that was something I could do. I am not sure if misfortune will befall on me if I do not forward chain mails sent to me but I am sure with every forward button push for that letter, that is one more candle lit up for the boy’s future. It may not be in dollar and cents like I said. It could be a prayer, could be your awareness, and could even be your efforts to let someone else know.
For those who didn’t receive my email, I am calling out on behalf of a friend (who resides in Dhaka now) to raise funds for a boy of 8 years old. He was born deaf and through my friend’s efforts he was able to come to Singapore to receive treatment which will restore his hearing.
NUH has kindly agreed to do the operation at half the cost. But yes, he still has to cough up with that money of about 50K, which is virtually impossible to a single-income family in Bangladesh.
If you would like to make a difference in just this one life, please get back to me (either email or the comments beside) and I will get back to you with the details.
I think the deadline will be Mar 1st so that the money will be handed over to NUH and the family in time.
THANKS A LOT!!!
2.13.2010
The beauty of children
On the way home after a long long long, tired and busy day at work, I sat on the train drained and ready to pass out anytime.
Then came onto the train a cheerful couple and their daughter of about 2 in a pram. As I was sitting in seat with low side arms, the little girl was pushed right beside me.
As her parents was chatting away happily, she was somehow looking so intently at me and throwing me smiles in between.
Even in such a low-fuel mode, the strength to smile back came naturally so we began making faces at each other.
Then came my stop and as I got ready to stand up to alight, she raised her hands up to wave and mouthed a silent good bye to me.
I couldn't stop smilling ( like a fool) as I got off the train. I was just so touched by her gesture somehow.
Children are not precious just because they looked cute or behave cutely but because of their innocence and the beautiful and pure heart not yet tainted by the demands of the world.
Then came onto the train a cheerful couple and their daughter of about 2 in a pram. As I was sitting in seat with low side arms, the little girl was pushed right beside me.
As her parents was chatting away happily, she was somehow looking so intently at me and throwing me smiles in between.
Even in such a low-fuel mode, the strength to smile back came naturally so we began making faces at each other.
Then came my stop and as I got ready to stand up to alight, she raised her hands up to wave and mouthed a silent good bye to me.
I couldn't stop smilling ( like a fool) as I got off the train. I was just so touched by her gesture somehow.
Children are not precious just because they looked cute or behave cutely but because of their innocence and the beautiful and pure heart not yet tainted by the demands of the world.
2.09.2010
Post updates
About my wound....
I finally got round to my senses and decided I should go see a doctor in case of any possible infection.
It was quite funny how the men at my workplace reacted. They all trembled in fear when I looked like I was going to open up the bandage to show them my wound. My manager argued, men are naturally terrified of blood because they don't see it as much as women do. My colleague and I looked at each other and burst out laughing... that's true! To us, it is a monthly affair, what you call 家常便飯。
So anyway, when I got to the doctor, the blood has already clotted so there was just slight bleeding from removing the bandage. So the doctor told me he was going to first disinfect it and then apply some cream. He told me to get ready because it was going hurt in the process, to which I held my breath and got ready for the pain. But guess what?
It didn't hurt AT ALL!
In fact, I felt nothing at all and I was like "huh? what's that false alarm for?" Got me all nervous for nothing.
He also prescribed pain-killers, ( no need loh!!) and pills to ease the gastric as it is one of the possible side-effect for the pain-killers ( really extra!!) sighz... I should have told the administrator I do not need the above 2 at all.
So now... in order to regain my beautiful finger, I need to religiously clean and disinfect my wound daily till new skin appears...
I finally got round to my senses and decided I should go see a doctor in case of any possible infection.
It was quite funny how the men at my workplace reacted. They all trembled in fear when I looked like I was going to open up the bandage to show them my wound. My manager argued, men are naturally terrified of blood because they don't see it as much as women do. My colleague and I looked at each other and burst out laughing... that's true! To us, it is a monthly affair, what you call 家常便飯。
So anyway, when I got to the doctor, the blood has already clotted so there was just slight bleeding from removing the bandage. So the doctor told me he was going to first disinfect it and then apply some cream. He told me to get ready because it was going hurt in the process, to which I held my breath and got ready for the pain. But guess what?
It didn't hurt AT ALL!
In fact, I felt nothing at all and I was like "huh? what's that false alarm for?" Got me all nervous for nothing.
He also prescribed pain-killers, ( no need loh!!) and pills to ease the gastric as it is one of the possible side-effect for the pain-killers ( really extra!!) sighz... I should have told the administrator I do not need the above 2 at all.
So now... in order to regain my beautiful finger, I need to religiously clean and disinfect my wound daily till new skin appears...
2.08.2010
A bloody affair!!
I cut my finger on saturday while I was cutting vegetables...
Unfortunately, it wasn't a slight slit. I actually sliced off a piece of my own flesh! ( yes I saw it flew to a short distance in front of me).
Immediately blood oozed out like mad and I had to run to grab a towel to wrap it up. Actually I think I was really calm in the whole process. There wasn't much pain so things were pretty much under control.
Since blood didn't look like it was going to stop soon, I bundle it up with the same towel, wrap up my hand up with a glove and went to bed.
The next day, I took out the bandage to change for a fresh one before setting out for church. Just as I was leaving house, I happened to glance in the direction of the wall where I rested my hand while wearing my boots, I saw a trail of blood! Gave me a big shock!
So I hurried back into the room for more plasters only to find trails of blood on the floor, my laptop and more in the bathroom basin.
It looked just like any scene out of a drama series. Blood-soaked towels, bandages, plasters and tapes strewn over the table, trails of blood around....
But since I was in a hurry, I couldn't really unbandage myself. I just grabbed another towel hoping to suppress the blood flow.
Got to church safely.. but as I was worshipping, I felt blood dripping out of the bandage again... Had to refrain from raising my hands too high. In fact I kept both hands to myself cus I had to use the towel to stop the blood from oozing out!
The blood has stil not stopped as of last night before I slept... It starts to flow whenever I take off the bandage... So I think I should go to the hospital today!
But something I learned and confirmed.
The best thing to use to stop heavy bleeding in a emergency is the sanitary pad!!
Think an emergency say on the road. The few minutes just before the ambulance arrives and you have a case of heavy bleeding. It is probably hard to find sterile gauze immediately but if there are ladies around, there is a high chance someone will also be carrying sanitary pads with them! It is sterile, easy to the skin and absorbs blood too!
This is what I like about first aid. Improvisation!!
Unfortunately, it wasn't a slight slit. I actually sliced off a piece of my own flesh! ( yes I saw it flew to a short distance in front of me).
Immediately blood oozed out like mad and I had to run to grab a towel to wrap it up. Actually I think I was really calm in the whole process. There wasn't much pain so things were pretty much under control.
Since blood didn't look like it was going to stop soon, I bundle it up with the same towel, wrap up my hand up with a glove and went to bed.
The next day, I took out the bandage to change for a fresh one before setting out for church. Just as I was leaving house, I happened to glance in the direction of the wall where I rested my hand while wearing my boots, I saw a trail of blood! Gave me a big shock!
So I hurried back into the room for more plasters only to find trails of blood on the floor, my laptop and more in the bathroom basin.
It looked just like any scene out of a drama series. Blood-soaked towels, bandages, plasters and tapes strewn over the table, trails of blood around....
But since I was in a hurry, I couldn't really unbandage myself. I just grabbed another towel hoping to suppress the blood flow.
Got to church safely.. but as I was worshipping, I felt blood dripping out of the bandage again... Had to refrain from raising my hands too high. In fact I kept both hands to myself cus I had to use the towel to stop the blood from oozing out!
The blood has stil not stopped as of last night before I slept... It starts to flow whenever I take off the bandage... So I think I should go to the hospital today!
But something I learned and confirmed.
The best thing to use to stop heavy bleeding in a emergency is the sanitary pad!!
Think an emergency say on the road. The few minutes just before the ambulance arrives and you have a case of heavy bleeding. It is probably hard to find sterile gauze immediately but if there are ladies around, there is a high chance someone will also be carrying sanitary pads with them! It is sterile, easy to the skin and absorbs blood too!
This is what I like about first aid. Improvisation!!
2.07.2010
A highly recommended(?) book??
I have been keeping myself occuppied, curling up with a book before sleep every night for the past week.
This book, Secrets to being a desirable women by Michelle Hammond, was given to me by my good fren TPL a few years and strangely enoughly, I have not really had the urge to pick it up till now. ( sorry peiz!)
Before everyone starts imagining things, it is not a book teaching you on how to be the "desirable women" in the worldly sense of how you should talk and behave nor approach guys. It is more on how a christian lady should behave and live her life so as to prepare the way as God brings that Man into her life.
I first started reading it with a tinge of contempt... especially on the point that ladies should always keep to where they are and let the guys come to approach them. Her theory being, Men are created to be the hunter....
But?! I am sure some of you can identify with me how some guys we meet are just so wishy-washy, indecisive or just plain shut up in their own world to notice the people around him and they need the help of us to awake them or to give them the push......
But before I could go on... I realised yah maybe she is right... I don't think I would really want to date such a person anyway. All of us probably if ideally, wants to be treated like a queen on the throne and not some richshaw puller who has to go out of the way to invite the guy on the rickshaw and then end up being the one pulling this relationship around. Just to add on, being the queen on the throne doesn't mean you sit around and shake your leg while ordering your subjects around. The role equivalent of someone "important" is to protect, love, support and care for the welfare of that someone who enthroned you.
She goes on to give examples of how we ladies like to help our men with excuses like he doesn't call because he is busy with work, or probably has misplaced our number... Doesn't give enough presents because he is not the type to...
Then think again of the unwanted suitors you have, how they continued to called and pester you even though you ignored them so many times..
How true... in a funny way really. I could really identify with both the examples she gave. I have been in both.
In the end, my greatest reward at the end of the day is to discover the antidote to cure that "longing for a partner". I think it is also the antidote to loneliness, insecurity, over-sensitivity and the list goes on...
The answer is to make yourself busy. I am not talking about drowning yourself in unmeaningful activities but things you enjoy doing, exercising your gifts or directing that love to people who need it. It may not be a man, but it maybe a orphan who needs some adult's guiding love or an elderly who needs a chating partner.
When you truly start to enjoy and live your life meaningful and positively, this translates into a form of invisible energy that drews people to you I guess.
This book, Secrets to being a desirable women by Michelle Hammond, was given to me by my good fren TPL a few years and strangely enoughly, I have not really had the urge to pick it up till now. ( sorry peiz!)
Before everyone starts imagining things, it is not a book teaching you on how to be the "desirable women" in the worldly sense of how you should talk and behave nor approach guys. It is more on how a christian lady should behave and live her life so as to prepare the way as God brings that Man into her life.
I first started reading it with a tinge of contempt... especially on the point that ladies should always keep to where they are and let the guys come to approach them. Her theory being, Men are created to be the hunter....
But?! I am sure some of you can identify with me how some guys we meet are just so wishy-washy, indecisive or just plain shut up in their own world to notice the people around him and they need the help of us to awake them or to give them the push......
But before I could go on... I realised yah maybe she is right... I don't think I would really want to date such a person anyway. All of us probably if ideally, wants to be treated like a queen on the throne and not some richshaw puller who has to go out of the way to invite the guy on the rickshaw and then end up being the one pulling this relationship around. Just to add on, being the queen on the throne doesn't mean you sit around and shake your leg while ordering your subjects around. The role equivalent of someone "important" is to protect, love, support and care for the welfare of that someone who enthroned you.
She goes on to give examples of how we ladies like to help our men with excuses like he doesn't call because he is busy with work, or probably has misplaced our number... Doesn't give enough presents because he is not the type to...
Then think again of the unwanted suitors you have, how they continued to called and pester you even though you ignored them so many times..
How true... in a funny way really. I could really identify with both the examples she gave. I have been in both.
In the end, my greatest reward at the end of the day is to discover the antidote to cure that "longing for a partner". I think it is also the antidote to loneliness, insecurity, over-sensitivity and the list goes on...
The answer is to make yourself busy. I am not talking about drowning yourself in unmeaningful activities but things you enjoy doing, exercising your gifts or directing that love to people who need it. It may not be a man, but it maybe a orphan who needs some adult's guiding love or an elderly who needs a chating partner.
When you truly start to enjoy and live your life meaningful and positively, this translates into a form of invisible energy that drews people to you I guess.
1.20.2010
An interesting experience^^
And... guessed what?
I was....
scouted by a shop to model their clothes!
Of course, its target consumer group are not skinny, anaemic babes wanna-be but the so-called bigger girls. Plus size clothings!
The boss or person-in charge apparently saw my photos on facebook through one of our common friends and she and her staff liked how I look.
To keep the records straight, their clothes are supposed to be for the young and fashionable and not for the shapeless aunties.. ( ah -hem.. )
Haa.... dunno how and what was the yardstick used to judge that.
But too bad for us, I am not in Singapore so I couldn't take up the offer!
I actually have had thoughts of modelling for plus size clothings.. not that I think I am model material but just wanted to try how it feels like to be all made-up by professionals. SO think more of a photo-shoot thing.
Okies... so FB is also a potential place to be scouted. Hope more of such chances, in which I can actually try out will come my way in the future too!
I was....
scouted by a shop to model their clothes!
Of course, its target consumer group are not skinny, anaemic babes wanna-be but the so-called bigger girls. Plus size clothings!
The boss or person-in charge apparently saw my photos on facebook through one of our common friends and she and her staff liked how I look.
To keep the records straight, their clothes are supposed to be for the young and fashionable and not for the shapeless aunties.. ( ah -hem.. )
Haa.... dunno how and what was the yardstick used to judge that.
But too bad for us, I am not in Singapore so I couldn't take up the offer!
I actually have had thoughts of modelling for plus size clothings.. not that I think I am model material but just wanted to try how it feels like to be all made-up by professionals. SO think more of a photo-shoot thing.
Okies... so FB is also a potential place to be scouted. Hope more of such chances, in which I can actually try out will come my way in the future too!
1.09.2010
I'm back!
A very long flight to me....
Especially when I was stuck at the windowless wall side. I was too paiseh to ask the persom beside me to move so I only went to the toilet once in the 7 hrs on flight. =(
But I just love the weather in Singapore so much! so much better that the freezing cold that eats into your bones in Tokyo.
And the food is good and cheap!
On the flight, I entertained myself with watching one of my favourite variety shows first. But I couldn't stifle my laughter so I thought I better stop before I disturb the person beside me or make a fool of myself...
So I switched to watching movies. I managed to watch about 1 and 3/4 of the other. ( couldn't finish it in time for landing!) Coincidentally it was movies on letters. Both were Japanese. Both were touching that I couldn't stop tearing as well..
well well... back in my beloved singapore!
Especially when I was stuck at the windowless wall side. I was too paiseh to ask the persom beside me to move so I only went to the toilet once in the 7 hrs on flight. =(
But I just love the weather in Singapore so much! so much better that the freezing cold that eats into your bones in Tokyo.
And the food is good and cheap!
On the flight, I entertained myself with watching one of my favourite variety shows first. But I couldn't stifle my laughter so I thought I better stop before I disturb the person beside me or make a fool of myself...
So I switched to watching movies. I managed to watch about 1 and 3/4 of the other. ( couldn't finish it in time for landing!) Coincidentally it was movies on letters. Both were Japanese. Both were touching that I couldn't stop tearing as well..
well well... back in my beloved singapore!
1.08.2010
Kamisake Mou sukoshi dake
Does this look familar to some of you out there? This is a super old show ( 12 yrs ago) used to be one of my favourite Japanese drama. I remembered going gaga with Candy ( my JC classmate) over Kaneshiro Takeshi ( Jin Cheng Wu) and also the cute sanrio stuff the female characters were using. I remembered strongly recommending ( practically forcing down their throat?!) my friends around to watch.Somehow, dunno what came over me and I thought I will watch this drama again.
Wow.... 12 years passed just like this.
I remembered I was so crazy over their fashion.... but when I watched it again, I couldn't laughing at how "lao tu" they are now. It was also quite funny to see how the female lead ( Fukada Kyoto) was so young then. But in reality, she has the exact same birthday as me. ( Same day, month and year) so looking at her 12 years ago is similar to thinking about the me 12 years ago.
One thing that never changed. Kaneshiro Takeshi is still so handsome! I was squealing here and there while watching it.
If I am not wrong, the friend who introduced me to Fukuda Kyoto was chunz my good friend. ( chunz: surprised?!) Yah now I think back, it was her who first introduced me to watch Oni No sumika ( with kelly chen) cus, in her words, " got many mei-nus!" I did and then I became a Fukuda Kyoto fan thereafter... In fact I think my brother and his friend also went gaga together with us over the drama.
Anyway, just one thing I wanted share about what came up in the show that I thought was really wise.
The female lead ( who contracted AIDS) attempted suicide after she saw some other lady kissing Keigo ( Kaneshiro). She felt that no one cared about her ( including her mother who is having an extra-marital affair) and that no one will care even if she dies.
When Keigo heard that, he lashed it out at her saying, " You have been too pampered. Human are not as simple as you think they are. They do not only have 1 single thing that is important to them. Your pride is hurt just because you think you are not being treated as the MOST important one with TOP priority".
Opps... as usual without the gift of the pen, I think I am not doing enough justice to where he said. ( trust me, I had to pause the drama for like 10 seconds just to ponder on what he said and also to wipe my saliva away)
Not to point fingers at anyone nor any situation. Can you all identify with this? Like having a partner who seems to hang out more with some other friends, parents who seem to focus their attention more on another sibling or friends who would could never spare the time to meet up. Of course there are people who are plain lazy to socialise etc... I think this is a good reminder to us that as everyone of us are juggling more than a single important issue or people in our lives. In fact, everyone is important in their way, unique in their own value. No one is replacable by anyone else in the world! Or at least I think so. None of my friends will ever be replaced someone else.
Talking about.... a upcoming wedding reminded me of all the good friends I have and treasured. I was imagining.... fantasizing about the day I should get married. I feel so blessed that despite being really hopeless in most things ( no gifting in talking, drawing or performing...) God has placed so many talents around me. People whom I can arrow to coordinate the wedding, be Emcee, organise the guests, decorate, give ideas... I can also have a multi-national wedding with people flying in from all parts of the world... mixed children to be page boy or flower girl (kao ni le xiao bai!)
I can think of who will be my side helping me memorising my wedding vows or giving the best friend speech on stage.
problem is....
no candidate for the important role of the groom yet!
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